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  • Stop Proving Yourself to Everyone Else this Year

    Stop Proving Yourself to Everyone Else this Year

    You won’t find your worth entirely in someone else — you find it in yourself, and then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy.

    ometimes we try to show the world we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone, but we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try. The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections. When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of who we think others want us to be, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.

    There’s no need to put on an act every day this year. There’s no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You have nothing to continuously prove. And if you catch yourself doing so, remind yourself…

    1. It’s imperative to honor your own boundaries.

    When you run into someone who discredits you, disrespects you, or treats you poorly for no apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. And be sure not to leave any space in your heart to hate them. Simply give yourself some healthy space and let karma deal with the things they say and do, because any bit of time you spend on these people will be wasted, and any bit of hate and aggravation in your heart will only hurt you in the end.

    Truth be told, some people will always tell you what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did right. Don’t be one of them, and don’t allow these people to constantly drain your energy and joy. Remember that distancing yourself from people who give you negative vibes or unhealthy energy is self-care. Stepping back from situations where you feel unappreciated or disrespected is self-care. Choose to honor your feelings and boundaries, respectfully.

    2. The people worth impressing want you to be yourself.

    In the long run it’s better to be loathed for who you are than loved for who you are not. In fact, the relationships that often work well in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be. So let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes!

    By being true to yourself, you put something breathtaking into the world that was not there before. You are stunning when your passion and strength shines through as you follow your own path — when you aren’t distracted by the opinions of others. You are powerful when you let your mistakes educate you, and your confidence builds from firsthand experiences — when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward without asking for anyone else’s permission.

    Bottom line: Don’t change just so people will like you; keep learning, growing, and nurturing your best self, and pretty soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.

     

    3. YOU are the primary person who can change your life.

    In every situation you have ever been in, positive or negative, the one common thread is you. It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with this prevailing truth.

    What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends primarily on what you choose to do with your time and energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Just keep doing your thing. The only people that will fault you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

    4. Society’s common measurements of worth are worthless.

    When you find yourself trapped between what moves you and what society tells you is right for you, always travel the route that makes you feel alive, unless you want everyone to be happy, except you. Seriously, no matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you — people who think they’re better than you — people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone…They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that — material things don’t matter. Don’t just chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go for the things of greater value — the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short!

    They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that — material things don’t matter. Don’t just chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go for the things of greater value — the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short!

    5. Life isn’t a race.

    Everyone wants to get there first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the truth is, most of your happiness and growth occurs while you’re moving, not while you’re standing at the finish line. So remind yourself as often as necessary that you are not behind. You are where you need to be. Don’t judge or berate yourself for how long your journey is taking. We all need our own time to travel our own distance.

    And don’t overwhelm yourself. Remember that you can’t lift a thousand pounds all at once, yet you can easily lift one pound a thousand times. Small, repeated efforts will get you there…

    Work hard. Rest well. Learn to disconnect. Engage in self-care. In the marathon of life, the key is learning to be mindful and pace yourself.

    6. The path to most great things passes through failure.

    You are an ever-changing work in progress. You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong. Screwing up is part of the process. Not getting approval, or not even looking the part sometimes, is the only way forward. If you try too hard to impress everyone with your “perfection,” you will stunt your growth! You will spend all your time faking it and looking a certain way, instead of growing up and living a certain way.

     

    Truly, it’s impossible to live without failing sometimes, unless you live so cautiously that you aren’t really living at all — you’re merely existing. And if you’re too afraid of failing in front of others, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful in your own eyes. You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how messy your journey is, so long as you do not stop taking small steps forward. In the end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable are the ones that make gradual progress. And YOU can be one of them

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  • 7 Daily Habits that Often Drain 90 Percent of Our Joy

    10 Daily Habits that Often Drain 90 Percent of Our Joy

    You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you. Here are some fairly common and widespread examples of the latter that will drain all your joy and peace, year after year, if you let them:

    1. Focusing on how life “should” be every step of the way.

    Try to use frustration and inconvenience to motivate you rather than annoy you. You are in control of the way you look at life. Instead of getting angry, find the lesson. In place of envy, feel admiration. In place of worry, take action. In place of doubt, have faith. Remember that your response is always more powerful than your present circumstance. A small part of your life is decided by completely uncontrollable circumstances, while the vast majority of your life is decided by your responses. Where you ultimately end up is heavily dependent on how you play the hands you’ve been dealt.

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    2. Want to control the uncontrollable

    Be selective with your energy today. If you can fix a problem, fix it. If you can’t, then accept it and change your thoughts about it. Whatever you do, don’t attempt to invest more energy than you have, tripping over something behind you or something that only exists inside your head. Truth be told, some of the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.

    3. Holding tight to the way things once were.

    You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or even a week ago. You’re always learning and growing, and life is always evolving. Again, even though you can’t control everything that happens, you can control your attitude about what happens. And in doing so, you will gradually master change rather than allowing it to master you. So be humble today. Be teachable. The world is often bigger than your view of the world. There’s always room for a fresh idea or a next step. But first you must accept the fact that things may never go back to how they used to be, and that this ending is really a new beginning.

    4. Refusing to practice self-forgiveness.

    Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you’ve made in the past, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that accidentally hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself, for being young and reckless. These are all vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow from them. 

    5. Endlessly settling for the default settings.

    There are thousands of people who live their entire lives on the default settings, never acknowledging the fact that they can customize everything. Don’t be one of them — don’t settle for the default settings on a daily basis. Don’t hide behind indecision or laziness either. And forget popularity! Just do your thing with passion, humility, and honesty. Do what you do, not for an applause, but because it’s what’s right. Pursue it a little bit each day, no matter what anyone else thinks. That’s how dreams are achieved.. Resisting new ideas and lessons.

    To make real progress in the long run you must let go of the assumption that you already have all the answers. So don’t stop learning! Don’t stop investing in yourself. Research. Read. Devour books. Engage with people, including those who think differently. Ask questions. Listen closely. And don’t just grow in knowledge. Be a person who gives back. Use what you’re learning to make a real and lasting difference.

    6. Resisting new ideas and lessons.

    To make real progress in the long run you must let go of the assumption that you already have all the answers. So don’t stop learning! Don’t stop investing in yourself. Research. Read. Devour books. Engage with people, including those who think differently. Ask questions. Listen closely. And don’t just grow in knowledge. Be a person who gives back. Use what you’re learning to make a real and lasting difference.

    7. Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.

    There are two variations of contentment in life — fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth and progress on matters that are truly important to you. At a quick glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious that the latter is far superior. So just remember, if it entertains you now but will hurt or bore you someday, it’s a distraction. Don’t settle. Don’t exchange what you want most for what you kinda want at the moment. Study your routines. Figure out where your time goes, and remove distractions. It’s time to focus more on what matters in the long run.

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  • Turning Adversity into Opportunity: How to Fall Forward During Tough Times

    Turning Adversity into Opportunity: How to Fall Forward During Tough Times.

     
    Life can be tough, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed and lost when facing difficult times. However, it's important to remember that we have the power to turn our struggles into opportunities for growth. By adopting positive habits and attitudes, we can emerge from tough times stronger, wiser, and more resilient. In this article, we'll explore what it means to "fall forward" and how to use difficult experiences as a catalyst for self-improvement.
    Understanding the Concept of Falling Forward
    Falling forward means using the energy and momentum of a setback or challenge to propel yourself towards a better future. It's about turning negative experiences into positive learning opportunities, and using them as motivation to make positive changes in your life. Instead of letting yourself fall into bad habits, you can choose to fall into good ones.
    How to Fall Forward During Tough Times
     
     
    1. Take care of yourself physically and mentally: Engage in regular exercise, eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and practice stress-relief techniques such as meditation or yoga.
    2. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional for emotional support.
    3. Set small, achievable goals: Focus on making small, positive changes in your daily routine, such as reading for 15 minutes a day or going for a 30-minute walk.
    4. Develop new habits: Use this time to cultivate new habits that will benefit you in the long run, such as learning a new skill or volunteering.
    5. Connect with your spirituality: Engage in activities that nourish your spiritual life, whether that means attending religious services, spending time in nature, or practicing mindfulness.
    By adopting these strategies, you can use difficult times as an opportunity to grow, learn, and improve your overall well-being. Remember that falling forward requires patience, persistence, and self-compassion, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate tough times. With a positive attitude and a willingness to embrace change, you can emerge from adversity stronger and more resilient than before.

     

     

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  • Why Being Underestimated Can Be a Blessing

    Why Being Underestimated Can Be a Blessing

    It's a common experience to face doubt and skepticism from others, especially when pursuing our goals and dreams. While it can be discouraging, being underestimated by others can actually be a blessing in disguise. It can serve as a powerful motivator to work harder and prove ourselves, and it can also help us to stay focused and consistent in our efforts. Furthermore, by maintaining a positive mindset and not adopting toxic behavior, we can strengthen ourselves and stay on the path to success. 

    This means being consistent in our efforts, both physically and mentally, and striving for personal growth in all areas of our lives, including spirituality, intelligence, and financial management. By doing so, we can create a strong foundation for ourselves that cannot be shaken by external doubts or criticism. So, embrace being underestimated, and use it as a catalyst to prove yourself and achieve your full potential. 

    Achieving success can bring many positive changes into our lives, but it also comes with its own set of challenges. One of the most common pitfalls of success is attracting toxic people and negative influences who seek to take advantage of our newfound success. This can be a difficult challenge to navigate, as it can be hard to determine who is truly supportive and who is simply trying to use us. It's important to remember that not everyone who enters our lives is meant to stay there, and that we must be discerning in choosing the people we surround ourselves with.

    As we reach our full potential, it's crucial to prioritize our mental and emotional well-being by cutting ties with negative influences and toxic relationships that do not serve us. This may require difficult decisions and letting go of people who have been a part of our lives for a long time, but ultimately it is necessary for our own growth and happiness. By being mindful of the people and influences we allow into our lives, we can maintain a healthy and positive environment that supports our continued success.

     

     

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  • A Champion of Black Excellence through Streaming

    A Champion of Black Excellence through Streaming

    As a rising star in the world of streaming, I'm driven by a passion for promoting Black excellence and creating a platform that celebrates our diverse talents and contributions. With a focus on business, spirituality, entertainment, and fashion, I strive to provide valuable insights and inspiration to my community.
    Streaming has become a powerful tool for individuals like me to share their voices and connect with people around the world. I'm leveraging this medium to make a positive impact on the lives of my viewers by promoting positive and empowering messages.
     
    My own experiences and observations have shaped my passion for Black excellence. I recognize the importance of representation and the need to showcase the diverse contributions of the Black community. Through my platform, I've created a space where people can come together, learn, and grow.
    My content covers a range of topics, from business tips and strategies to spiritual reflections and motivational messages. I also highlight the achievements and successes of Black entrepreneurs, artists, and changemakers. My engaging and authentic approach has helped me build a dedicated following of like-minded individuals who share my vision.
    In addition to streaming, I'm also involved in various community initiatives aimed at supporting and uplifting the Black community.

    As someone who's dedicated to providing a positive influence through my platform, I believe that empowering the mind is essential in today's digital age. Social media can be a toxic environment that can breed negativity and misinformation, which can be damaging to our mental health and well-being.
    That's why I strive to create a safe space for my community to engage in meaningful conversations and experiences. My goal is to challenge and educate my viewers, empowering them with the tools they need to think critically and navigate the digital world with confidence.
    By focusing on the power of education and knowledge, I hope to foster an environment of growth and open-mindedness. I want to inspire my audience to question the status quo and explore new perspectives and ideas.
    My platform serves as a sanctuary from the noise of social media, offering a place of refuge for those seeking a more positive and uplifting experience online.
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