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  • Royalty meets royalty: Prince Harry, Duchess Meghan, Beyonce and Jay-Z meet at 'The Lion King'

    British royalty met American royalty at the European premiere of "The Lion King."

    The Duke and Duchess of Sussex were photographed chatting with Queen Bey and Jay-Z on the London red carpet Sunday, and we had no idea so many icons could fit together in one picture. 

    Duchess Meghan wore a black Jason Wu dress with sheer sleeves along with white diamond Nikos Koulis earrings and a Gucci clutch. Beyoncé wore a custom gold Cong Tri gown with a thigh-high slit. 

    The Duchess hugged Beyoncé and Jay-Z before Harry walked over to join the trio. 

    "You guys are busy," Prince Harry could be heard saying to the couple in a video. 

    "No more busy than you," Queen Bey responded. 

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  • Man riding jet ski busted for using Tinder by his girlfriend

    'We're out here on vacation and you're getting Tinder messages?' Hilarious video shows the moment a man accidentally reveals to his girlfriend he is STILL on the dating app - while the pair are on a jet ski

    A man appears to be in hot water after his girlfriend realized he was still on Tinder in the middle of recording a video while they were jet skiing.

    The video, which was obtained by Jam Press, starts with the couple bobbing up and down on the waves while the jet ski slowly moves through the water. 

    The girlfriend, seated behind the man, can be seen holding onto his shoulders, giggling and mugging for the camera as the man speaks directly into the camera, which is off-screen.  

    After a couple seconds, the girlfriend stares at the camera, which is presumably attached to a cell phone, and her expression drops. 

    'Wait. Is that Tinder?' she asks. 

    'What are you talking about?' the man asks, shifting his eyes away from the camera and back to it, while revving the jet ski's engine. 

    'I thought you deleted that,' she says. 'Who is that? Why are they messaging you?' 

    When the man says that he did delete the dating app and tries to come up with an excuse for what his girlfriend is seeing, she interrupts him and says, 'We're out here on vacation and you're getting Tinder messages? Are you messaging them back? What the f**k is this?' 

    The man doesn't come up with an answer quick enough. 

    'Give me your phone,' the girlfriend demands, tapping the side of the man's head when he doesn't comply. 'Park this!' she says, referring to the jet ski.  

    'I'm going to park this,' the man says, before flooring the gas, sending the jet ski roaring through the water, in an apparent effort to cut off the impending fight. 

    The video ends as the girlfriend shrieks and laughs, telling her boyfriend, 'I'm not playing with you!' 

    Inexplicably, the man continued to shoot the video even after he had seemingly been caught out. Even more strange, he posted the confrontation online - so it remains to be seen if the video is genuine or an piece of theater for hits.

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  • Seattle police officers shot pregnant woman seven times and one of the bullets struck her unborn baby boy, autopsy reveals

    Seattle police officers shot pregnant woman seven times and one of the bullets struck her unborn baby boy, autopsy reveals

    The father of a pregnant woman who was shot dead by police officers after she called to report a robbery in June has released her autopsy report. 

    Charleena Lyles was nearly four months pregnant on June 18 when she called police to report an Xbox stolen at her Seattle apartment.

    It's still unclear how the confrontation unfolded, but in less than three minutes, the two officers opened fire on the 30-year-old  in front of three of her four children.

     

    The officers, Jason Anderson and Steven McNew, said that they started shooting at Lyles when she lunged at them holding knives.   

    The autopsy report, released Wednesday, shows that Lyles was shot seven times, including twice in the back. 

    One of the bullets perforated her uterus, striking her unborn baby boy. Both mother and son died at the hospital. The unborn baby boy would have been Lyles' fifth child. 

    The report also included toxicology reports, showing that Lyles didn't have alcohol or drugs in her system at the time. 

    Her father, Charles Lyles, told The people: 'Hearing the details of the shooting just makes me feel more empty. I lost my daughter and my next grandson. I just don't have the words.' 

    The fact that she was shot in the back leads family members to question the officers' side of the story. 

    'Did they shoot her as she fell to the ground? Was she running away?' cousin Katrina Johnson asked. 'How did she get shot in the back? I still don't know that and understand that, but any which way, it was excessive force. Seven times for her little pregnant 100-pound self was out of control.'

    Koehler said that they decided to release the autopsy report to dispel the public assumptions about the case.

    'If you have been reading the dialogue you might have assumed she was a poor, single black woman with multiple children who must have been on drugs, and that is a false assumption and a false narrative,' Koehler told the people.

    Jason Anderson (right) and Steven McNew (left) are the two officers who shot Lyles dead. They are on paid administrative leave pending the results of an internal investigation 

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  • Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

    When you’re feeling insecure, you typically don’t notice the hundreds of people around you who accept you just the way you are. All you notice are the few who don’t.

    In what way is the fear of rejection holding you back? How would your life be different if you didn’t (subconsciously) care what everyone thought about you?

    To answer these questions, we must understand that the vast majority of our fears and anxieties amount to one thing: Loss.

    We fear:

    • Losing our youth.
    • Losing our social status.
    • Losing our money.
    • Losing control.
    • Losing our comfort.
    • Losing our life.

    We also fear, perhaps more than anything else, being rejected by others. This kind of fear is widespread and debilitating if left unaddressed. Why is this fear so deeply entrenched in us? In ancient tribal times, being rejected from the safety of the community could have meant death. So it’s no wonder, really, that we want to be accepted by others.

    Fear is an instinctual human emotion designed to keep us aware and safe – like the headlights on a car clearly illuminating the twists and turns on the road ahead. But too much fear, like high beams blinding us on a dark, foggy road, can cause the loss of the very thing we feared losing in the first place.

    This is especially true when it comes to fear of rejection

    Do you look for acceptance and reassurance from others?

    If so, you now know you’re not alone.  And what I’ve learned over the years is this: Constantly seeking acceptance and reassurance from other people is a dead end journey. These things can only be found within you, not from others. Because any look, word, or reaction from someone else can be warped and misinterpreted.

    In this post I want to share some tips that helped me feel self-assured, and eventually allowed me to overcome my fear of rejection and my relentless tenancy to worry about what everyone thought of me…

    1. Realize that fear itself is the real enemy.

    Franklin D. Roosevelt so profoundly said, “Only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. This is especially true as it relates to self-fulfilling prophecies.

    A self-fulfilling prophecy is a false belief about a situation that motivates the person with the belief to take actions that cause the belief to come true. This kind of thinking often kills opportunities and tears relationships apart. For instance, you might wrongly believe that a group of people will reject you, so you become defensive, anxious, and perhaps even hostile with them. Eventually, your behavior brings about the feared rejection, which wasn’t there to begin with. And then you, ‘the prophet,’ feels that you were right from the very beginning: “I knew they didn’t like me!”

    Do you see how this works? Look carefully at your own tendencies. How do your fears and beliefs about possible rejection influence your behavior toward others? Take a stand. Instead of letting fear show you what might be wrong in your relationships, start looking for signs of what might be right.

    2. Let go of your “end of the world” thinking.

    All variations of fear, including the fear of rejection, thrive on “end of the world” thinking. In other words, our emotions convince us that an undesirable outcome results in annihilation.

    • What if they don’t like me?
    • What if he rejects me?
    • What if I don’t fit in and I’m left sitting alone at the party?

    None of these things result in the “end of the world,” but if we convince ourselves that they do, we will irrationally fear these outcomes and give our fears control over us. The truth is, we – human beings – are inefficient at accurately predicting how future misfortune will make us feel. In fact, most of the time we avoid consciously thinking about it all together, which only perpetuates our subconscious fears.

    So ask yourself: “If disaster should strike, and my fear of being rejected comes true, what are three constructive ways I could cope and move forward with my life?” Sit down and tell yourself a story (write it down too if it helps) about how you will feel after rejection, how you will allow yourself to be upset for a short while, and then how you will begin the process of growing from the experience and moving on. Just doing this exercise will help you feel less fear around the possibility of rejection.

    3. Question what “rejection” really means.

    If a person discovers a 200 carat white diamond in the earth but, due to ignorance, believes it to be worthless, and thus tosses it aside, does this tell us more about the diamond or the person? Along the same lines, when one person rejects another, it reveals a lot more about the ‘rejecter’ than the ‘rejected.’ All you are really seeing is the often shortsighted opinion of one person. Consider the following…

    If J.K. Rowling stopped after being rejected by multiple publishers for years, there would be no Harry Potter. If Howard Schultz gave up after being turned down by banks 200+ times, there would be no Starbucks. If Walt Disney quit too soon after his theme park concept was trashed by 300+ investors, there would be no Disney World.

    One thing is for sure: If you give too much power to the opinions of others, you will become their prisoner. So never let someone’s opinion alter your reality. Never sacrifice who you are, or who you aspire to be, just because someone else has a problem with it. Love who you are inside and out, and keep pushing forward. No one else has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power. And when someone rejects you, don’t inevitably feel it’s because you’re unworthy or unlovable. Because, in many ways, all they’ve really done is give you feedback about their own shortsightedness.

    4. Let your presence overpower your fear.

    Ever noticed how people who are struggling with emotional challenges tend to tell you how they don’t want to feel? Fair enough, but at some point we all need to focus on how we DO want to feel.

    When you’re in a social situation that’s making you anxious, forget what you don’t want to feel for a moment. Work out how you DO want to feel right now in the present moment. Train yourself to live right here, right now without regretting how others once made you feel, or fearing the possibility of future judgment.

    This is YOUR choice. You CAN change the way you think.

    If you were delivering life-saving mouth-to-mouth resuscitation on your mother in public, you’d be 100% focused and present. You wouldn’t be thinking about what bystanders thought of your hair, your body type, or the brand of jeans you were wearing. All these inconsequential details would vanish from your consciousness. The intensity of the situation would motivate you to choose not to care about what others might be thinking of you. This proves, quite simply, that thinking about what others are thinking about you is YOUR CHOICE.

    5. Let go of your need to always be right.

    The reason your fear of rejection sometimes gets the best of you is because a part of you believes you’re always right. If you think someone doesn’t like you, then surely they don’t. Right? WRONG!

    People who never learn to question their emotions, especially when they’re feeling worrisome or anxious, make life much more difficult than it has to be.

    If your perception is always so accurate, why do you make so many mistakes? Exactly! It’s time to let go a little. Being more confident in life partly means being OK with not knowing what’s going to happen, so you can relax and allow things to play out naturally. Relaxing with ‘not knowing’ is the key to confidence in relationships and peace in life.

    So here’s a new mantra for you ... say it, and then say it again: “This is my life, my choices, my mistakes and my lessons. I have nothing to prove. And as long as I’m not hurting people, I need not worry what they think of me.”

    6. Embrace and enjoy your individuality.

    Constantly seeking approval means we’re perpetually worried that others are forming negative judgments of us. This steals the fun, ingenuity, and spontaneity from our lives. Flip the switch on this habit. If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t be ashamed and don’t change. Uniqueness is priceless. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your remarkable self. And if they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same.

    It takes a lot of courage to stand alone, but it’s worth it. Being unapologetically YOU is worth it! Your real friends in life will reveal themselves slowly – they’re the ones who truly know you and love you just the same.

    Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be yourself and the right people will love the real you. 

    7. Use rejection as a priceless growth opportunity.

    As soon as someone critiques and criticizes you, as soon as you are rejected, you might find yourself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am not worthy.” What you need to realize is, these other people are NOT worthy of YOU and your particular journey. Rejection is necessary medicine; it teaches you how to reject relationships and opportunities that aren’t going to work, so you can quickly find new ones that will. It doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it just means someone else failed to notice what you have to offer. Which means you now have more time to improve yourself and explore your options.

    “Will you be bitter for a moment? Absolutely. Hurt? Of course, you’re human. There isn’t a soul on this planet that doesn’t feel a small fraction of their heartbreak at the awareness of rejection. For a short time afterwards you will ask yourself every question you can think of…

    • What did I do wrong?
    • Why didn’t they like me?
    • How come?

    But then you have to let your emotions fuel you! This is the important part. Let your feelings of rejection drive you, feed you, and inspire one heck of a powerful opening to the next chapter of your story.

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  • Largest Black-owned bank launches visa debit card in honor of Black women

    OneUnited Bank launched a Queen Visa Debit Card under its Royalty Campaign to recognize women who exude #BlackGirlMagic, including Harriet Tubman, Shirley Chisholm, and Angela Davis.

    The largest Black-owned bank in America is paying respects to Black queens all over the country. OneUnited Bank launched a Queen Visa Debit Card under its Royalty Campaign to recognize the women who exude #BlackGirlMagic, according to a press release.

    OneUnited bank introduced the Queen Card in March during Women’s History Month under the Royalty #WearYourCrown Campaign to raise awareness of  the #BankBlack and #BuyBlack Movement across the nation.

    “We agree with Maya Angelou,”  President and COO of OneUnited Bank, Teri Williams,said in a statement. “If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be. We encourage the Black community to celebrate the amazing past, present and future Queens in our community.”

    The bank is recognizing women in various career fields, including scientists, educators, entertainers and activists, who all made an impact on the world.

     

    Some notable black women figures include Aretha Franklin, Oprah Winfrey, Angela Davis, Queen Latifah,  Beyoncé, Harriet Tubman, and Shirley Chisholm.

    In February, the bank launched a Black History Month campaign with a King Visa Debit Card under its Royalty Campaign as well. They find it important to celebrate “the new generation of kings and queens” in the country.

    OneUnited Bank supports its community “by promoting financial literacy and offering affordable financial services” and this campaign embodies what it means to recognize trailblazing women who are making a difference.

    Black women have been especially making significant strides in entrepreneurship. From 2007 to 2018, the total of black women-owned business grew by a whopping 164 percent. In 2018, 2.4 million Black women owned businesses across the nation, according to Forbes. In almost every sector, Black women reign.

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