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  • H.A.T.E.R.S = HAVING. ANGER. TOWARDS. EVERYONE. REACHING. SUCCESS.

    1. First and foremost, you are not obligated to live up to everyone’s expectations. – Life is under no obligation to give us what we expect. And you are under no obligation to give others what they expect. Period. Do things because you care. Do things because you know it’s right. Don’t just do things because everyone else expects you to.
    2. Expectations just get in the way of great life experiences. – Don’t let expectations (especially other people’s expectations) get in your way. Truth be told, the unexpected is often better than the expected. Our entire lives can be described in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned, and that’s OK.
    3. You don’t need others to hold your hand every step of the way.– Be willing to go alone sometimes. You don’t need permission to grow. Not everyone who started with you will finish with you. And that’s OK. 
    4. You get to learn from your mistakes without unnecessary third-party pressure. – You’re going to mess up sometimes. But the good news is, as long as you’re listening to your intuition, you get to decide how you’re going to mess up. Which means you get to decide how you’re going to live and what you’re going to learn along the way.
    5. No one knows you better than you know yourself. – How you seem to others and how you actually are, rarely match. Even if they get the basic gist of who you are, they’re still missing a big piece of the puzzle. What other people think of you will rarely contain the whole truth, which is fine. So if someone forms an opinion of you based on superficialities, then it’s up to them, not you, to reform those opinions. Leave it to them to worry about. You know who you are and what’s best for you.
    6. Only YOU can define what’s possible for you and your life. – Some people will kill you over time if you let them; and how they’ll kill you is with tiny, harmless phrases like, “Be realistic.” When this happens, close your ears and listen to your inner voice instead. Remember that real success in life isn’t what others see, but how you feel. It’s living your truth and doing what makes you feel alive.
    7. In the end, happiness is simply living your life your own way.– There comes a time when your back is up against the wall and you realize all you can do is say, “Screw it, I’m doing things my way!” That’s the earth-shattering moment you stop planning for someone else’s expectations, and start making progress on what’s truly important to YOU. That’s when you begin to live life according to your own morals and values. That’s when you can finally be at your happiest.
    8. You can best serve yourself and others by giving yourself what YOU need. – Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive, and pursue it at all costs. That’s what this world needs – people like YOU who come alive. Which means your needs matter; so don’t ignore them. Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you and your life, not just what seems best on the surface for everyone else.
    9. You need to allow yourself the freedom to speak your truth. – Yes, speak your truth even if your voice shakes. Be cordial and reasonable, of course, but don’t tread carefully on every word you say. Push your concerns of what others might think aside. Let the consequences of doing so unravel naturally. What you’ll find is that most of the time no one will be offended or irritated at all. And if they do get upset, it’s likely only because you’ve started behaving in a way that makes them feel they have less power over you. Think about it. Why lie?
    10. The wrong people should not be able to tamper with your standards. – Remember, failed relationships aren’t designed to encourage you to lower your standards, but to raise them and keep them up. So while you’re out there making decisions instead of excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your goals, know that there are others out there, like me, who admire your efforts and are striving for greatness too. Bottom line: Don’t let the wrong people bring you down.
    11. The haters can have less of an effect on you. – Don’t worry about the haters, ever. Don’t let them get to you. They’re just upset because the truth you know contradicts the lies they live. Period.
    12. Your individuality can be openly celebrated and enjoyed. – Constantly seeking approval means you’re perpetually worried that others are forming negative judgments of you. This steals the fun, ingenuity, and spontaneity from your life. Flip the switch on this habit. If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t be ashamed and don’t change. Uniqueness is priceless. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your remarkable self. It takes a lot of courage to stand alone, but it’s worth it. Being unapologetically YOU is worth it!
    13. There can very easily be less drama to deal with on a daily basis. – Forgo the drama. Ignore the negativity around you. Just be sincere and kind, and promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.
    14. Great relationships are not governed by one-sided expectations. – When it comes to your relationships, don’t keep everything you need to say to yourself. Let it out. Express your point of view. Communication is not just an important part of a relationship, communication is the relationship. Communicate even when it’s uncomfortable and uneasy. One of the best ways to heal and grow a relationship is simply getting everything on the inside out in the open. Compromise. That’s how good people make great things happen together.
    15. You can be YOUR best, without competing with everyone else.– When you are happy to simply do your best and not compare or compete, everyone worth your while will respect you. Here’s some healthy food for thought: Always… Be strong, but not rude. Be kind, but not weak. Be humble, but not timid. Be proud, but not arrogant. Be bold, but not a bully.
    16. You are not obligated to anyone more so than you are to yourself. – Your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever have. So don’t forget about YOU out there, and don’t be too hard on yourself either. There are plenty of others willing to do both for you. And remember, if you don’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of others either; which is why taking care of yourself is the best selfish thing you can do.

     

     

     

     

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  • Woman jailed for murdering daughters who 'got in way' of her sex life

    Louise Porton described as ‘evil’ and ‘calculated’ for killing three-year-old and 17-month-old girls

    A mother who murdered her two young daughters 18 days apart after they “got in the way” of her living the life she wanted has been jailed for at least 32 years.

    Louise Porton, 23, killed Lexi Draper, three, and 17-month old Scarlett Vaughan last year. Both deaths were consistent with deliberate airway obstruction, and doctors could not find “any natural reason why either, let alone both, should have died”, prosecutors said.

    She suffocated Lexi in the early hours of 15 January, and was heard “laughing” at a funeral parlour two days before killing Scarlett on 1 February.

    A jury heard that Porton, who described herself on a dating app as a model, accepted 41 friend requests from men the day after Lexi’s death.

    After Scarlett’s death, she had delayed calling an ambulance, even filling up with petrol as the toddler lay dead or dying in her car, and was described as being “calm and emotionless.”.

    Her children “got in the way of her doing what she wanted, when she wanted and with whom she wanted,” Oliver Saxby QC, prosecuting, said.

    Porton, of Skiddaw, Rugby, Warwickshire, denied killing the girls, but was unanimously convicted following a five-week trial.

    Jailing her for life with a minimum term of 32 years the judge, Mrs Justice Yip, described Porton’s actions as “evil” and “calculated”.

    “One way or another you squeezed the life out of each of your daughters, only calling the emergency services when you knew they were dead. I am sure at the time of the deaths, you intended to kill each of your daughters. Why you did so, only you will know.”

    Evidence pointed to Porton having made two previous unsuccessful attempts on Lexi’s life. She had twice been taken to hospital but was sent home with antibiotics for an apparent chest infection.

    The judge said she was sure Porton had been responsible for events leading to Lexi’s earlier admissions to hospital on 2 January and on 4 January when her life was saved by skilled resuscitation by paramedics.

    Porton had made “sinister” internet searches at the time about death and breathing and drowning. She had researched how long it took for body parts to go cold, Birmingham crown court heard.

    The crown alleged Lexi had been dead for some time before a 999 call was made. Of Lexi’s death, the judge said: “I am left in no doubt that you delayed calling for an ambulance until you were sure she was dead and could not be resuscitated.” Scarlett “had signs of prior airway obstruction”, the judge said.

    When Lexi was ill in hospital, Porton took topless photos in the hospital toilets and was arranging to perform sex acts for money with a man she had met through a website, the jury heard.

    After Lexi’s death, it appeared to the funeral arranger present that Porton was “using FaceTime and that she was speaking to a man.”.

    Porton’s former landlady, when she lived at an address in Willenhall, near Walsall, told police she spent “more and more time” caring for Lexi and Scarlett while their mother was “doing social things” instead of looking after them. Porton would do “whatever she could not to have them with her”, she said.

    Porton had denied wrongdoing throughout, telling police in a prepared statement: “My children were never an inconvenience to me and I accommodated my lifestyle and personal life around them. I still don’t know how my daughters died, or what caused it.”

    The judge said she had carried out the “grossest abuse of trust” against her girls. “Those who loved Lexi and Scarlett have been left bewildered as to how and why you could have done something so evil.”

    The children’s father, Chris Draper, who never met Scarlett, said in an impact statement he felt “broken” with “nothing to live for”.

    “I sit and think, day and night, and I can’t understand why my two little girls were taken away because Louise wanted to sleep around. Maybe if social services had listened to me, my girls would still be alive today.”

    Det Supt Pete Hill, of Warwickshire police, said: “I will never be able to understand why Louise Porton murdered her children; Lexi and Scarlett. Not content with killing one of her children, she did exactly the same to her other daughter.”

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  • Meek Mill Partners With Jay-Z’s Roc Nation to Launch Dream Chasers Label

    Jay-Z and Meek Mill launch new record label

     

    Jay-Z and Meek Mill are partnering to bring Meek’s Dream Chasers label into the Roc Nation fold. The two signed papers Tuesday in New York City in front of a small media gathering at Roc Nation’s midtown headquarters.

    Holding the title of president of Dream Chasers, a joint venture with Roc Nation, Meek will oversee the label and build a staff to sign and develop artists. The label will also handle its own operations, creative strategy, marketing and business affairs. Meek is also planning to open a recording studio for use by the label’s artists.

    Said Jay-Z, whose 11-year-old Roc Nation has had Meek as a management client: “Everything he has done leading up to this point shows he is ready to [lead] the next generation. We look at the big picture — this is way beyond signing artists and having hot records.”

    Meek will continue to record for Maybach/Atlantic and he plans to release some “new content” prior to the Aug. 28 start of his Legendary Nights tour with Future.

    A Philadelphian  — the Eagles used his “Dreams and Nightmares” as their entrance music during their Super Bowl-winning season — Meek created the Dream Chasers imprint in 2012, though its handful of releases have been limited to mixtapes.

    Noting that it’s given him “seven years of experience,” Meek added, “I think it’s time for me to dive into the business. I’m 32 years old, I’m in a nice spot in the music business and I can help artists.”

    The label has no artists signed yet and no time frame to get started. He’s jumping into the label business after having a string of major success — three of his four Maybach/Atlantic albums have gone platinum and two have gone to No. 1. His 2018 track with Drake, “Going Bad,” peaked at No. 6 this year and is two times platinum.

    His goal is to sign artists with staying power rather than ones who might enjoy a month of success via social media channels. Jay-Z noted that Meek has been forwarding him plenty of music: “He has a super keen eye.”

    Meek Mill’s rise in the music world, though, has run concurrent with lingering legal issues stemming from drug and gun possession charges. Upon his most recent release from incarceration, he and Jay-Z created the REFORM Alliance to lobby for changes in laws and policies concerning parole and probation.

    “Coming out of prison, I felt I had a responsibility to lead the culture as much as I can,” Meek said. “Jay-Z and others that came before me were like the snow plow that made it easier for me and others. I want to be the snow plow of the next generation, taking on those responsibilities, trying to move forward and push the culture forward.”

    On the business side, Meek recently acquired an ownership stake in the sports apparel retailer Lids and has joined the ownership groups of Ethika Underwear and Milano di Rouge.

    All of that plays into what Jay-Z’s view of what Roc Nation represents. “When Meek and I connected, we connected on a level beyond him being a great rapper,” he said. “Just who he is, his honesty, his sense of responsibility. He just came out of a situation and pulled people together. He turned a negative thing into something positive.

    “I know he can make music  — you’ve heard it. I think he cannot only make music, but make stars. Not only make stars but make films. What we lacked for so long was opportunity. We didn’t own our businesses.  We’ve never been in this position before, never had this sort of power. Hip-hop is 40-something years old so we’ve just now gotten to the point where we can really affect change. The music and culture we created — we’ve given it away for so long. It’s understandable. You have to clean the floors before you own the building.”

     

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  • When someone you love passes away.....Encouragement

    My good friend passed away on the 4th Sept 2017 after a long battle with bowel cancer. He was only 38 years old and the most amazing man and father.

    Lately I have been struggling with the reality of what the cancer did to him. As he was so young his heart was strong, which meant that his body carried on for at least 1 year longer then normal. But in doing so it meant that we watched as the rest of his body wasted away to nothing - literally. I just want to encourage you. 

    1.  You are made to survive the hardest days of your life

    You are born with the ability to change your life no matter how much loss, sadness and difficulty you are experiencing.  You are born ready even though you don’t feel ready.  You are literally hardwired to reinvent yourself and overcome.  You don’t even have to learn to do it, you already know how.  You just need to focus your energy gradually and accordingly.  Grieve with each small step forward, one at a time, one day after the next.

    This is your journey and you can write the map to where you are going.  Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t, that you should just sit around and “wait” longer… that there is no way out right now.  There is a way!  And you are standing right in front of it.

    Your life is your creation.  When you start to know this.....to truly know this.....then you can be more in control of your life and what happens within it from moment to moment.

    2.  You are the primary creator of your life experience

    In a very real sense, your life is created one day at a time by you and the people you choose to have around you.  This is crucial to know.  You are the creator of yourself and your destiny in each moment.  In a very real sense, what you choose to experience, and who you choose to share each experience with, influences your ultimate creation.

    In other words, you create your life by choosing the kind of story you want to tell every day.  You create it by the way you respond to difficult and painful circumstances.  By the way you see the world and by the people you choose to keep in your life.

    3.  Death is not the end

    Death is not death.  When someone you love dies, it just means they exist in another way....in another dimension that is non-local, non-geographical, non-physical looking.  You have access to that dimension.  Every day.  Every moment.  You don’t have to wait for them to contact you.  You can be the one connecting with them.  And they want to connect with you, too.

    4.  Empty space is as full and real as you are

    When you study quantum physics long enough you learn that your body, the table in front of you, the computer, the phone, the trees, the solid-looking things in your life are not really solid.  They just appear solid and firm.  The truth is that the nothingness of the space between your table and chairs, is the same as the table and chairs.  Nothing and not nothing is one and the same.  The empty space next to you, is made the way you are made.

    One of the reasons this is important to understand is simply that the empty space you perceive around you is not really empty at all—it contains far more than what meets the eye, including the loved ones you’ve lost.  They are still here but you can’t see them with your physical sense of sight.  Your eyes can’t see all the light that exists in a different dimension.  Your ears can’t hear all the sounds that exist there either.  The people we think we’ve lost are right here inside all the space around us.  We really aren’t alone when we are alone.

    This has been one of the biggest discoveries I made. Those loved ones you’ve lost want you to say hi....they want you to talk to them.  I know this can come across as peculiar.... I am fully aware of that.  But through my research and practice I have learned that death is just a word we use to describe the end of someone’s physical life.  Not the absolute end of them.

    5.  Nothing is impossible

    There truly is a deeper reality, a deeper level of life that we can’t see from here, and it is where miracles originate from.  Where healing takes place.  Where everything gets created in the space around us.  And this deeper, more hidden reality is in many ways more real than the one we perceive with our (flawed) physical senses.  And you can bring everything you want from there to here.  This only seems impossible to you right now.  But it isn’t.  NOTHING is impossible!

    Not believing this...not knowing this....is like trying to drive a car at night without the lights on.  There are always impossible obstacles and objects in front of us and around us that we can’t immediately see, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there, or that they can’t affect us.  Please don’t forget it.  You are the driver of this experience you call life, and you now know what you need to work on, to turn the lights back on.

    You Impossibly Survived the Unthinkable

    In the end, one thing I know for sure is that life after loss can be the most extraordinary chapter of your life.

    Because those of us who have lost someone we love now want the answers to the bigger questions we never even thought to ask before loss.  The routine of the everyday life is not the same, and it surely isn’t enough.  The basic answers to what life is about no longer seem to fit.  We want more, we are the leaders, seekers and makers of the impossible future.  Because of our deep grief, our forced access to higher levels of grit, and above all our close proximity to death through the loss of our loved ones, we have an evolutionary advantage.  Know this.  Let it sink in.  Nothing is ever the same after such tragedies.  It’s time to live your life in ways you never dreamed were possible!  The world is waiting for people like you to show them the way.

     

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  • Man riding jet ski busted for using Tinder by his girlfriend

    'We're out here on vacation and you're getting Tinder messages?' Hilarious video shows the moment a man accidentally reveals to his girlfriend he is STILL on the dating app - while the pair are on a jet ski

    A man appears to be in hot water after his girlfriend realized he was still on Tinder in the middle of recording a video while they were jet skiing.

    The video, which was obtained by Jam Press, starts with the couple bobbing up and down on the waves while the jet ski slowly moves through the water. 

    The girlfriend, seated behind the man, can be seen holding onto his shoulders, giggling and mugging for the camera as the man speaks directly into the camera, which is off-screen.  

    After a couple seconds, the girlfriend stares at the camera, which is presumably attached to a cell phone, and her expression drops. 

    'Wait. Is that Tinder?' she asks. 

    'What are you talking about?' the man asks, shifting his eyes away from the camera and back to it, while revving the jet ski's engine. 

    'I thought you deleted that,' she says. 'Who is that? Why are they messaging you?' 

    When the man says that he did delete the dating app and tries to come up with an excuse for what his girlfriend is seeing, she interrupts him and says, 'We're out here on vacation and you're getting Tinder messages? Are you messaging them back? What the f**k is this?' 

    The man doesn't come up with an answer quick enough. 

    'Give me your phone,' the girlfriend demands, tapping the side of the man's head when he doesn't comply. 'Park this!' she says, referring to the jet ski.  

    'I'm going to park this,' the man says, before flooring the gas, sending the jet ski roaring through the water, in an apparent effort to cut off the impending fight. 

    The video ends as the girlfriend shrieks and laughs, telling her boyfriend, 'I'm not playing with you!' 

    Inexplicably, the man continued to shoot the video even after he had seemingly been caught out. Even more strange, he posted the confrontation online - so it remains to be seen if the video is genuine or an piece of theater for hits.

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